There are many types of friendship circles, if you feel that your friends can't respect you then try to find another circle of friends, maybe you don't fit in there. Don't bother trying to get people to respect you.
Appreciating it means that there is something about you that is valuable in the eyes of your friends, in this case, that something is "you as their friend". If they just don't respect you as a friend, do you still want to be appreciated for something else? Appreciated for being beautiful?, for a lot of money?, No need, you just want friends here.